Flee Or Gee: The EXtiquette

What should you do when your ex is around? Flee or Gee? Flee, leave and hide to avoid your ex or Gee (Go), deal with it and act casual. Here is an Ex Etiquette (EXtiquette) manual to guide you on how you should act properly around your ex. Remember, do not get caught!

Common awkward scenarios with exes

 1. Running into each other after the breakup.

Running into your ex after the breakup might really get awkward. Usually, the awkwardness is intensified with a bad breakup. A bad breakup might cause third-party issues or compatibility issues. Nevertheless, running into your ex right after the breakup is crucial. Some panics upon seeing their ex approach the same direction,  while others can handle the intensity.

What should you do? Gee, act normal. Walk straight, relax and breathe. Try to make an eye contact and wait if your ex will look at you too. If your ex smiles at you, smile back because why not? You should remember that once upon a time, you two had good times too. This stage is crucial because your light heart will depend on this scenario. The ability to smile at each other despite the heartbreak is a good start of moving on.

2. Running into him/her with their new partner.

You could not really tell if you have moved on until you see him/her with someone new, that usually was you. If you still have feelings, hiding it is the hardest challenge. If you have moved on, cheers to that! The three-month rule does not exist in the dictionary anymore, the soonest this could happen is seconds after the breakup.

 What should you do? Gee, walk with confidence. Most people lose their sense of individuality and identity when in a relationship. Often, this kind of changes is also a factor of breakups- “you’re not the same girl/man I loved.” The answer is, simply show him/her again the man/girl they once loved. It somehow gives them an impact of guilt on losing you.

3. Having common friends.

Having common friends with your ex is indeed inevitable. Regardless of how long you have been together, you will always have a common friend, unless you met online. Things like your friends are planning on an outing and both of you are invited. You do not really know what to do since they are your friends so you have to go but your ex is there.

What should you do? Gee, keep going on with life. “Bros before hoes” is such a cliche but applies to this scenario. Whatever broken relationship you had with your ex should not affect the relationship you have with your friends. Your friends have nothing to do with the relationship you cannot work out with your ex. You cannot keep running away to avoid your ex, face it and end the awkwardness.

4. Having your dates in the same place.

Well, the world is a small place. You cannot avoid meeting your ex once in a while in random places. Irony says, “the more you avoid it the more it comes to you.” Whatever you do, the world keeps spinning and life goes on so should you.

What should you do? This situation is kind of tricky. Flee, if you know you are not in a serious dating. Gee, if you are really into the person you are with. Seeing your ex near you while you are with someone new results to two possibilities. First, it will make you wish to be the one he/she is with once again. Second, it will make you grateful for meeting someone new.

5. When your ex texts you when you are about to start anew.

They say you can never unlove someone. The intensity of love just changes from different levels of love- friendly love, family love or romantic love. You will always care once you involve yourself in someone else’s life. That is why you cannot help yourself but be affected if he/she texts you once again.

What should you do? Flee, if you know it might destroy what you have at present. Gee, if it is an emergency. Sometimes, exes come back when they realize no one can love them the way you did. These people are the kind of people to have a higher tendency of causing toxicity in your life. Maybe your relationship did not work for a reason. Although, you can still be friends because why not? You were once together sharing memories. At times, you cannot help but run to people you know knows you better in times of crisis. Sometimes, the situation just stresses you out and cannot think of someone but your ex. Usually, this happens especially when experiencing a relationship crisis with your new partner. This is normal because of the familiarity built during those times you were together.

In the end, you just have to carry on and keep going on with life. Heartbreaks come to rebuild you to become a better version of yourself. Do not stay stuck at the same place- on the same person (your ex) if it is not worth it. Flee on toxic people. Gee and explore. There is a lot more to life.